Grace
For too long, we’ve been sold a lie about success— that we have to earn it by grinding, striving, and constantly proving our worth. It’s the voice of guilt, fear, and "never good enough" that says you have to do it all alone.
It’s the belief that success only comes from exhausting yourself, that receiving help makes you weak, that vulnerability is a flaw, not a strength.
Spiritually, it shows up like a bad deal — thinking God is distant, punitive, and only rewards the perfect. Emotionally, it looks like carrying family burdens, generational guilt, and a martyr’s mindset of endless sacrifice.
But here’s the truth: Grace isn’t earned — it’s received. It’s not about achieving perfection — it’s about trusting the process, staying open, and knowing you are worthy before you lift a single finger. When you drop the struggle and embrace divine favor, life moves through you — not against you.
Stop hustling for worthiness. Start receiving with faith.
Recently I was talking with a friend about what Grace is. My dad grew up in a very anti-grace religious culture... where shame and effort and doing things alone was the cultural style and belief. This belief and emotional energy was passed on to me. Don't get me wrong I love my dad and he's since then adopted a much more gentle and kind flow with life, as have I.
In that painful place where I thought I was not enough and where I struggled to receive success into my life, struggled to allow my true identity to burst forth. My focus was the problem, not effort, my trust and relationship with the divine was the problem, not the willingness and commitment to hard work. In the end my relationship with myself... that I must do it all alone.
"I must do everything alone and prove my worth through constant struggle - Not so my friend"
- Ben Cassani
Unlocking Life’s Greatest Secret
“Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.”
— Tony Robbins
If you’ve ever had a moment where everything just clicked without you forcing it — congratulations, you’ve tasted Grace.
Grace isn’t about hustling harder, doing more, or battling your way to success. Grace is effortless success. It’s the divine favor that sweeps into your life and lifts you higher than your own effort ever could. It’s unmerited support that meets you exactly where you are — and loves you enough to move you somewhere better.
The Effortless Power of Grace
Imagine living where success flows naturally, support arrives right on time, and healing feels effortless. That’s the magic of Grace — the divine power that turns struggle into blessing and limitation into pure possibility. Ready to receive? Let’s dive in!
The Superpower You Didn’t Know You Had
Grace is what happens when you stop trying to "go it alone" and start expanding your capacity to receive.
It’s when:
- Help shows up right when you need it. (Synchronicities)
- Opportunities fall into your lap that you couldn’t have planned.
- Healing unfolds in your heart without heavy lifting.
- Solutions appear like magic when you least expect it.
Grace turns life from a battlefield into a dance floor. 🩰
Here's a song I wrote about the power of Grace.
I wrote this song about the Mary and Martha archetypes in our life.
“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” - Luke 10:38–42 (NIV)
"What truly matters right now?"
"Am I caught in distractions or sitting in what truly nourishes my soul?"
How Grace Really Works
Don't have a cow man... relax
Grace isn’t passive, but it’s also not about frantic action. It’s about:
- Speaking life and hope into situations.
- Trusting the bigger picture (even when you can't see it yet).
- Letting go of the "I have to figure it all out" mindset.
- Focusing on The Source of Light & Truth (Christ) — not your limitations.
You don’t have to manufacture miracles — Grace brings them to your doorstep.
Jesus emphasized that the spirit of the law is more important than the letter of the law. This means that our core beliefs should not be confined to rigid rules or legalistic frameworks but should be based on deeper principles of love, mercy, and compassion.
Analysis: Core beliefs that are shaped by the spirit of the law move beyond outward actions and focus on the heart and intentions. This calls for a transformation of one’s mindset and approach, where actions flow from a place of love, integrity, and faith, rather than fear, judgment, or obligation.
Element: Grace – Core beliefs should also embrace the concept of grace, both in receiving God’s grace and extending it to others. This leads to a more compassionate view of oneself and others, allowing for growth and healing even in areas of failure.
Buddhist Approach
The Buddha taught that the true spirit of the Dharma transcends rigid ritual or strict attachment to form. It is the inner cultivation of wisdom (prajna), compassion (karuna), and loving-kindness (metta) that brings true liberation. Core beliefs should not be trapped by rigid dogma or external practices but should arise from an awakened heart that recognizes the interconnectedness and inherent goodness of all beings.
Analysis:
Core beliefs, when shaped by the living spirit of the Dharma, go beyond mere external actions. They focus on the intention (cetana) and the mind state from which actions arise. In Buddhism, transformation happens when a person moves from attachment and aversion toward openness, acceptance, and loving awareness. Actions then naturally flow from compassion, equanimity, and mindfulness rather than fear, striving, or self-judgment.
While Buddhism doesn’t frame "grace" in the same way Christianity does, there is a profound parallel: the concept of boundless compassion (maha-karuna) and the natural support of the Dharma. When one opens the heart to the Dharma, there is an effortless flow of wisdom and compassion that supports growth and healing — not through earning it, but through receptivity and surrender to the true nature of reality.
"Drop by drop is the water pot filled. Likewise, the wise one, gathering it little by little, fills oneself with good."
— The Buddha (Dhammapada 122)
Living in the Flow of Grace
Want more Grace in your life? Here’s the secret:
Get open. Stay open.
- Be open to receiving.
- Be open to unexpected answers.
- Be open to healing old wounds.
- Be open to becoming someone new.
Grace isn’t about “deserving.” It’s about receiving.
It’s about letting the love of God wash away guilt, condemnation, and striving — and letting Him build something better in you than you ever could alone.
It’s Time to Trust the Wind Beneath Your Wings
You’re not meant to carry everything.
You’re not meant to strive forever.
You’re meant to fly.
Grace is the wind, the invisible lift, the active love of a God who is involved in every detail of your life. And when you trust in Grace, life becomes an adventure — not a grind.
Grace isn’t just a passive blessing — it’s divine power in motion.
It’s when you open your heart, drop control, and start hearing the Creator — not through words, but through synchronicities and divine interventions.
Grace shows up when you’re aligned — the right people, the right opportunities, the right solutions appear effortlessly.
It’s not luck. It’s not coincidence.
It’s divine orchestration.
And here’s the key:
Grace isn’t earned — it’s received.
It’s when you trust more, strive less, and let life flow through you.
When you’re connected, Grace feels like the wind at your back.
You move with less effort, more power, and life becomes not just successful — but sacred.
"Life is not happening to you, it’s happening for you."
— Tony Robbins
Breathe it in. Receive it. Celebrate it.
You’re living in the flow of Grace — and it’s glorious.
Today, what if you chose to believe that support is already on its way?
What if you spoke Grace over every situation you face?
What if you lived expecting favor instead of fear?
✨ Your next level of joy, peace, and power isn’t something you earn — it’s something you accept.
Coaching Strategies
Here are some coaching strategies to help your clients allow more grace into their lives.
| Strategy | How It Relates to Grace | Coaching Move |
|---|---|---|
| 1. Change the Meaning | Releases guilt and opens to divine purpose | "What if this is happening for you?" |
| 2. Create a Compelling Future | Awakens hope and receptivity | "What does a life of miracles feel like?" |
| 3. Soften Control Patterns | Makes space for divine help | "You don’t have to carry this alone." |
1. Change the Meaning
(Pattern: Transformational Meaning Reframe)
How this relates to Grace:
Grace often flows when you release old guilt, resentment, or condemnation.
Madanes and Robbins teach that suffering comes from the meaning you assign to events — not the events themselves.
Strategy:
Help clients reinterpret painful events through a lens of purpose, growth, or divine support.
Instead of seeing failure as proof of inadequacy, help them see it as evidence that Grace is setting them up for something better.
Example coaching move:
Ask:
- "What if this isn’t happening to you but for you?"
- "What could be the hidden gift or blessing in this situation?"
🌟 This opens emotional and spiritual flow, which is the essence of Grace.
2. Create a Compelling Future
(Pattern: Future Pull vs Past Push)
How this relates to Grace:
Grace thrives when hope, faith, and vision for the future are alive.
Robbins teaches that people move toward a future that excites them — not by trying to fix the past, but by being pulled by something greater.
"THE COMPELLING FUTURE"
Strategy:
Help clients envision a future filled with divine support, healing, favor, and effortless success.
Example coaching move:
- "Close your eyes and imagine a life where support and miracles are the norm. What does that life look like? Feel like? How do you walk differently when you expect help?"
🌟 This activates faith, openness, and receivership — the core elements of Grace.
3. Use "Softening" to Break Patterns of Control
(Pattern: Interrupt Control/Perfectionism with Softness)
How this relates to Grace:
Grace is about letting go of striving and receiving support.
Cloe Madanes especially focuses on using softening techniques to interrupt people’s control patterns, perfectionism, and anxiety.
Strategy:
When a client is clenching, striving, or blaming themselves, invite them to soften. Use your own energy to model warmth, humor, and permission to be imperfect.
Example coaching move:
Gently say:
- "You don’t have to carry this alone."
- "What if you could just allow things to unfold with a little more grace and a little less effort?"
🌟 This disarms shame and opens the emotional space where Grace can operate.
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