10 Disciplines of Love
Why:
Relationships thrive when love is a conscious commitment, not just an emotional reaction. Many relationships fail because partners put themselves first, love conditionally, or fail to nurture intimacy. By practicing these 10 disciplines, you can cultivate a deeper, more fulfilling connection.
"A great relationship is about two things:
first, appreciating the similarities,
and second, respecting the differences."
What:
The 10 Disciplines of Love provide a framework for sustaining love and passion in any relationship. These principles guide partners to prioritize love over ego, ensuring mutual growth and unwavering trust.
They include:
- Putting your lover first
- Loving no matter what
- The power of love, adoration, and praise
- Flooding each other with love
- Daily intimacy
- Heartfelt understanding
- Giving to each other
- Trust
- Honesty
- Alignment
How:
To integrate these disciplines into your life, practice daily acts of love, communicate openly, and commit to selflessness. Love should not be based on convenience but on intentional effort.
Example:
Physical 🟧 – Prioritize daily physical connection, such as hugs, kisses, and meaningful touch. Create rituals like a morning embrace or an evening walk holding hands.
Intellectual 🟦 – Engage in deep conversations about goals, beliefs, and dreams. Learn and grow together by reading books or taking courses on love and relationships.
Social 🟢 – Publicly appreciate your partner and defend your relationship’s integrity. Foster relationships with others who support and uplift your love.
Spiritual 🔴 – Meditate together, pray for each other, or practice gratitude as a couple. Align your values and purpose to strengthen your emotional and spiritual bond.
See: Core 100 Module 7 - 3 Levels of Relationship
Ben Cassani
By practicing the 10 Disciplines of Love, you build a relationship that thrives on trust, passion, and alignment. Love isn’t just about finding the right person—it’s about becoming the right partner.
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