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Hiding your Light? Why not step out into the Sun! 🌞
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Hiding your Light? Why not step out into the Sun! 🌞

Hiding your Light? Why not step out into the Sun! 🌞

Feeling tire and exhausted this morning ugh.

  • Are you struggling to show up at your corporate job one more day?
  • Does your dream job seem too far?
  • Does your life lack the excitement or fulfilling sense of peace you are seeking?
  • Are you ready to pull your hair out? (Dealing with a particular person or child?)
  • Do you feel weighed down by the problems of other people around you?
  • Do you feel alone in your problems?

Are you waiting for the piano of purpose to drop on your head?

I've learned to slam on the brake
Before I even turn the key
Before I make the mistake
Before I lead with the worst of me
So, I wait around for an answer to appear

This week I was talking to my kids about how you need to STEP INTO your problems before the "water parts" and the power comes. I was telling them you just need a sense of the right direction; you don't need all the details figured out.

In that very moment, I realize... I haven't mastered my fears and taken the step into the water and get my feet wet. πŸ¦ΆπŸ’¦

We can't wait for an answer to appear. We need to listen for a sense of the right direction. That's all we need to take a step forward! I'm not saying run into danger, I'm saying walk with courage and take the next right step.

Fear is such a sneaking subtle emotional energy. It makes me think of jumpy chickens 🐣. It's like we THINK we are 🦁 brave lions ready to take on the world and the simplest thought takes us off course from our determinations, from our dreams, from sticking with a problem just a bit longer.

You aren't being chased by animals that want to kill you.

How to Overcome Fear

πŸ§β€β™‚οΈ The Illusions πŸ§™β€β™‚οΈπŸ§™β€β™€οΈ

We have more powerful capabilities than we think. We can overcome it.
What's the thing that's going to bring all this pain into our lives?

Slow down really...
What's the pain you are afraid will be welcomed into your life?
What are we missing? What can we learn about the depth of our soul?

🚫 What Fear is NOT 😱

  1. An unknowable awful thing ❓
  2. Just an impulsive thing people can't understand.
  3. The unconscious fears. πŸ‘©β€πŸ”¬

β­• What Fear Is =

What is fear then? What's are we afraid is going to hurt us?

  1. Fear is a bad management of our own mental faculties.
  2. What If? .... followed by a negative statement...
  3. Fear is negative contemplative thoughts, where we associate pain with stepping out into the water.
  4. Then we generate and stew within our gut... tricking our mind that we can't go forward.

What are the main types of pain?

  1. Loss Pain
    Lose your everyday understanding of your world
    Loss / Gain - πŸ‘“ focus on the flip side
    Get attached to the "LEARNING PROCESS" πŸ‘¨β€πŸŽ“πŸ‘©β€πŸŽ“
    You are gaining "MOMENTUM" πŸš€
    Cheer them on...
  2. Process Pain
    There are learning pains as you are gaining & growing (#HonorTheStruggle)
    If you are the Pollyanna... it will be difficult
    Most inspiring forces say I know it's hard
    It's okay... I went through that too
    It's part of Mastery to Life
    Learning to see challenges we can joyously enter
  3. Outcome Pain (They fear disappointment)
    I did all the stuff you said I'm still "fat"... WHY?
    I'm scared
    What if the grass isn't greener...? on the other side...

The Solution πŸ’‘

  • Once knowable... you can gain:
  1. Competency
  2. Confidence
  3. The more you understand... β†— the more confidence. πŸ™‚
  4. Once you understand it you can deal with it.

Q: Why have I not been progressing faster?

Replace it with

  1. Focus on what you might gain?
  2. I'm going to grow faster because I'm doing something. Β I'm doing it on my own.
  3. I'm gonna feel fit, happy, enjoy the journey, enjoy going out with people again.
  4. Start thinking about all the things that will be positive in that change.
You've got to become your own change management consultant.

Growth Mindset Time

  1. Acknowledge and embrace imperfections. Hiding from your weaknesses means you’ll never overcome them.

2. View challenges as opportunities. Having a growth mindset means relishing opportunities for self-improvement. Learn more about how to fail well.

3. Try different learning tactics. There’s no one-size-fits-all model for learning. What works for one person may not work for you. Learn about learning strategies.

5. Replace the word failing with the word learning. When you make a mistake or fall short of a goal, you haven’t failed; you’ve learned.

6. Stop seeking approval. When you prioritize approval over learning, you sacrifice your own potential for growth.

Principle: Personal Power

Or in other words, social emotional intelligence

Social emotional intelligence... isn't just with your interactions with other people.
It's also with yourself. Listening to your intuition, listening deeply to the subtle indicators. Taking time to slow down, to ponder. Slooooowing down to think your feelings and feel your thoughts. If a thought doesn't feel good... pause... stop... breath.

Fink your feelings and Teel your thoughts.

Allow your inner intelligence to speak. Allow your inner guide to have a place in your life.

"I am the Door"

When you connect to the light of purpose the door opens, the opportunities come.
Your faith & your belief in a friendly universe is like the hinges that allow a large block of wood to move -a Door. This allows you to step into the new you, the new possibilities.

You can become the door, step forward get your feet wet, dive into that problem a little and trust that the universe has your back. The answers will come in the way we least expect and trust you become the door (with a little faith) to the greatest possibilities yet to come.


"We start with stars in our eyes"

Lyrics

I've learned to slam on the brake
Before I even turn the key
Before I make the mistake
Before I lead with the worst of me

Give them no reason to stare
No slipping up if you slip away
So, I got nothing to share
No, I got nothing to say

Step out, step out of the sun
If you keep getting burned
Step out, step out of the sun
Because you've learned, because you've learned

On the outside, always looking in
Will I ever be more than I've always been?
'Cause I'm tap, tap, tapping on the glass
I'm waving through a window
I try to speak, but nobody can hear
So I wait around for an answer to appear
While I'm watch, watch, watching people pass
I'm waving through a window, oh
Can anybody see, is anybody waving back at me?

We start with stars in our eyes
We start believing that we belong
But every sun doesn't rise
And no one tells you where you went wrong

Step out, step out of the sun
If you keep getting burned
Step out, step out of the sun
Because you've learned, because you've learned

On the outside, always looking in
Will I ever be more than I've always been?
'Cause I'm tap, tap, tapping on the glass
Waving through a window
I try to speak, but nobody can hear
So I wait around for an answer to appear
While I'm watch, watch, watching people pass
Waving through a window, oh
Can anybody see, is anybody waving?

When you're falling in a forest and there's nobody around
Do you ever really crash, or even make a sound?
When you're falling in a forest and there's nobody around
Do you ever really crash, or even make a sound?
When you're falling in a forest and there's nobody around
Do you ever really crash, or even make a sound?
When you're falling in a forest and there's nobody around
Do you ever really crash, or even make a sound?
Did I even make a sound?
Did I even make a sound?
It's like I never made a sound
Will I ever make a sound?

On the outside, always looking in
Will I ever be more than I've always been?
'Cause I'm tap, tap, tapping on the glass
Waving through a window
I try to speak, but nobody can hear
So I wait around for an answer to appear
While I'm watch, watch, watching people pass
Waving through a window, oh
Can anybody see, is anybody waving back at me?

Is anybody waving?
Waving, waving...

-Waving Through a Window, Dear Evan Hans, a Broadway Production

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